You’re beautiful. Say what?


Question of the day: Is it acceptable to call a stranger beautiful? 

I often ask myself this whenever I see someone who I find physically good looking for more than a materialistic reason.

I have commented on a stranger’s hair, make-up, perfume and clothes before, making them aware that I like that particular attribute of their style. The recipient of said comment usually smiles and replies with a “thank you”. I assume this response is positive and genuine as I’ve never been politely get lost yet. However, I am unsure as to whether saying to someone in the street “excuse me, I think you’re beautiful” is acceptable or just a bit weird. Passing comment on a material feature such as hairstyle or dress sense seems a safe option resulting in gratitude, yet I have seen girls who I find uniquely beautiful as they have peculiar facial features or perhaps a naturally obscure look. This look I’m talking about seems to be a rarity and I feel I owe it to this stunner of a human-being to point out my feelings. Isn’t this what model scouts do?!

If someone approached me and said “I love the way you’ve done your eyeliner”, I would undoubtedly smile, accept the compliment and appreciate their thoughts yet if someone said “I think you’re beautiful”, without any reasoning or justification as to why, I’m pretty certain I would be slightly bemused and taken aback; I’d be curious as to why they would think I’m beautiful as opposed to casually accepting the positive comment about my eyeliner.

When I next see someone who obtains this rare strange beauty that strikes me, I will test out my theory and see how they react. I may possibly come across as creepy, they may even think I’m a lesbian, (I would only do this experiment with my fellow female species…calling a fella beautiful would just be too weird, even for me), but if nothing else I might make that person’s day which is always a lovely thing to do! I suppose I could tell anyone I see passing me by that they’re beautiful but I wouldn’t want to lie to them really, I do have standards to be honest.

Maybe justification as to why someone thinks your beautiful is needed an obligatory in this society; one cannot just accept this somewhat abstract comment for no reason. Yet if your justification was “…because you look like a model alien with an odd but distinctive amount of space between you’re massive bug eyes” seems inappropriate?

Now, saying someone is “fit” is a completely different kettle of fish! Personally, I find this term quite insulting and derogatory. But no doubt somewhere deep down, under the blanket of my disgust at the fact someone finds me physically attractive and had made me feel a bit like a piece of meat, I would inwardly think “ohhh yeah I’m a hot mama. Thank you to you good sir.” But girls should want to be more than “fit”. The term “fit” leads to a temporary ego boost on my part which is ultimately short-lived and replaced nearly immediately by anger. I digress! 

Thank you reader, you are indeed beautiful (no justification needed here!). No, actually here’s the justifying; you’re beautiful for reading this.


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  1. As a male I can tell you it can be extremely difficult to comment on a girls attractiveness like calling them beautiful even if it is just purely meant as compliment without said girl thinking that you are “coming on to them”. It is something I’ve experienced personally, I merely paid the girl a compliment and she got quite abusive saying how she has a boyfriend and how dare I say that too her. Nothing was meant by it as I wasn’t attracted to her but merely thought she was attractive. I think it is a difficult area, especially coming from the male side.

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